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Choices.... Ramblings of a Mad Man...

Been consoling a friend and her struggles with her relationship. Recently engaged, now, I've been trying to be supportive as a friend. My thoughts and opinions always come off very strong and charged, but I do try to temper them.

This is the second friend in the last few months, that I have agreed to terminate our friendship should their romantic partner not feel comfortable. Both friendships are quite significant to me for a variety of reasons, and I don't take the decisions lightly, but I think the ability to find someone to your partner is more important than a friendship.

I have a few friends that will kill me for saying this, but their happiness will always be more important than mine....

So yet again, I feel my circle of close friends continue to shrink.. Maybe, truly this is the reason why male and female friendships are destined to end at some point. I know the above scenario isn't the status-quo, but I also understand my decision to make it easier for others is equally (or more important).

My friend K asked me to her small wedding in Sept. After her and partner visited me this evening as I was working, she left me a voicemail asking me to be emceee at her wedding. I have responded, and as a small party, this should be pretty interesting. As my Chinese isn't very good, I'll need to work on this part quite a bit...

Was struggling a bit this weekend when I was trying to take time off in August to visit a friend. Not even sure I will be able to get the time off anymore. I really do need a break, and some time for reflection... I'm having a hard time keeping up. I am going to be very interested to see what transpires.

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silvenwolf
Aug. 2nd, 2012 12:47 am (UTC)
I feel like I need to pack you off to some yoga retreat and leave you there for a week.

I think it's very telling (of a romantic partner) if they won't ever be comfortable with you being friends with the opposite sex. If they trust you, and they're confident in the relationship standing rock solid, then there's nothing to be afraid of. But hey... in that department, I'm pretty damn lucky. And not everyone is.

(coming from someone who's husband says "soo you haven't seen Razor in a while maybe you should phone him...")

But, it is equally sweet of you to put your friends above yourself - now if only one day you can find a girl that is just as big hearted and more to complement you. I hope that when you do a) I can meet her, and b) we will be good friends.

Now go book yourself into a massage or something. When are we having dinner next? I feel another Shigatsu craving coming on... you created a monster :p
razorw
Aug. 2nd, 2012 12:52 am (UTC)
Yah, that wouldn't be a bad idea... I'm surprised you are still keeping up with my entries.. didn't even know if anyone was reading...

Congrats on your hubby's promotion. Maybe he'll be treating me to Flames games in the future. I suspect you're going to be dragged to some more fancy functions.. hehehe =)

Hey. I've never said I'm not open to a relationship, but I just haven't met anyone. Offer is still open to my friends. If there's anyone they want me to meet, I'll make the time ... I am emceeing a wedding in Sept where I may be meeting someone .. so who knows...

As for Shigatsu .. it would probably be have to be after I get back from San Fran.. I'm there from the 9th to 13th... Its just a bit crazy right now...

Also .. do you have the BBQ figured out? If you give me advance notice I may be able to drop by....

Cheers!
silvenwolf
Aug. 2nd, 2012 12:56 am (UTC)
Always, you crazy dude... sometimes I learn something new about you when I drop in :)

Thanks! Hey that's always a possibility. Blehh to fancy functions, he never takes me anywhere where I have to dress up. You, on the other hand ...

I know better than to bite - we have talked plenty about me not playing Cupid with your life hehe but I'm sure going to be a cheery spectator. You can throw something at me later for that comment.

No problem re: Shigatsu, sis in law is here until the 21st so after that works.

BBQ is looking to be the 18th is what hubby said, I just gotta get my butt in gear and actually put something up on facebook.
razorw
Aug. 2nd, 2012 01:01 am (UTC)
Really not that hard to put it on FB...

If you want to charge admission .. EventBrite is pretty easy to use...

We'll do something after the 21st .. Not sure about the 18th just yet... Was planning to run away (for a week or so) .. but may delay that until Sept.
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